I’m fat! Our author Stella Sieger could not and would not accept this for a long time! Read how she thinks about it today.
To be skinny! Many women seek their fulfillment in this fantasy – finally slim, sexy, desirable, beautiful, ideal, lovable. And… happy! Empty promise! What changes about your feelings? Or about the people who don’t like you? Now you’ re skinny, but that’ s all. You remain the same person. Thick, thin, those are just adjectives like small, big, flat or round – they describe appearances.
For a long time I thought, when I am finally thin, I will certainly be happy. Then everyone will like me and nobody will have a reason to be mean anymore. That’s just BS! People always find something to tease you with. At some point I learned that my obvious protective armor makes me strong.
I’ve changed my mind about being fat, it’s the way it is: I’m fat.
When I say this publicly, I’m told “What? You’re not fat, don’t say that! Maybe chubby or stout or something”. Why does everyone feel compelled to describe the word “fat” in a friendly way? It’s just the name for something that is big and wide. Chubby, stout, plump, bearish… all words to describe being fat in a positive way. But unfortunately many people associate being fat with something bad.
Another nurse’s tale: Fat people are lazy! I have the feeling that many people associate the word fat, with lazy people who stuff food into themselves. Wrong! I may be fat, but I do sports regularly and eat healthily for the most part. I see absolutely nothing wrong with my corpulent body. Which brings us back to the subject: Is corpulent a swearword? Lush, well-fed, impressive, well-rounded, fullfigured are only a few of the terms that describe our fat reserves supposedly lovingly. I find it rather an insult when someone tells me that I am plump, chubby or massive.
People always stammer around when it comes to body issues and try desperately not to offend you. That’s sweet, but I’m telling you: Just say it: Fat. This hesitation makes being fat a problem right now, because it feels like it’s something bad. But there’s really nothing to it. I’m fat and that’s good!
What do I particularly like? We offer a lot of space to cuddle! In this sense… I am round, so what?