Are you also getting back into the dating game after corona? Well, it’s tough and it can be scary, so let’s go through it together. Here are some tips on dating after corona!
I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that I’m scared to get back into the dating scene. I haven’t dated anybody “seriously” in a while, and I haven’t been with somebody intimitely in even longer. However, now that summer is coming along and most people are getting vaccinated, going out will become more normal (fingers crossed). I’ve recently started dating a guy, and I’m actually really interested in him, but I’m a little hesitant about it all. Here are some tips that have helped me process and experience everything.
1. Open communication
Okay, so this one is huge. Right from the start we were pretty honest with one another when it came to dating and talking about our feelings. However, it’s not always easy to communicate openly and honestly. What helped me in my experience, was being open from the start. I think that the hardest part is saying how you feel or what you want, but if you and your partner are both willing to just speak openly, the conversation will flow naturally.
Instead of avoiding certain topics, sometimes it’s a lot easier to just say what’s on your mind. Maybe your partner is thinking the same thing! It’s a lot scarier to confront a situation or thought by yourself, and most of the time we tend to over exaggerate things in our head. So, I say, shoot your shot! Be open and honest, and don’t be afraid to say what you think or feel.
2. Feeling comfortable
Being comfortable with the person you’re dating or sleeping with is a MUST! Everything always feels so much better when you’re comfortable — for the most part. This is important to take into consideration from the very beginning of dating someone new. If the person you are seeing makes you feel uncomfortable, I highly suggest you try to figure out what exactly it is that bothers you, or maybe just don’t continue seeing that person.
If you feel comfortable from the start — that is a really good sign! However, between the butterflies, emotions, and adrenaline coursing through your body, you might feel confused. Remember, don’t mistake things that could possibly be red flags because it’s new or exciting. If something doesn’t feel right from the beginning, then it probably won’t get better. Follow your intuition!
3. Ask questions
Getting to know somebody new is nervewracking. Sometimes you meet someone you like through mutual friends, other times you meet a complete stranger on the street or more commonly nowadays, through a dating app. It’s not always easy to ask questions, but easing your way into them through good conversation is essential!
Sometimes you want to know what they are looking for in a relationship, or you’re curious about their past relationship experience, etc. Sometimes it comes into the conversation naturally, but there’s also no problem with asking questions! Remember, you’re getting to know each other so it’s totally normal to want to know about one another.
4. Take it slow (or not)
In my case, taking it slow has been a really good thing. I was a bit hesitant about getting back into dating because I haven’t been with somebody intimitely in a very long time. Due to this, I have been wanting to take it slow and enjoy the moment. Thankfully, he has reciprocated similar feelings. He was actually the one that suggested we take things slow, and it’s working like a charm.
I feel myself developing feelings for him at a fast, but natural pace considering the fact that we’ve only been dating for about two and a half weeks. Call me old-fashioned, but I think that taking things slow can not only help make you feel more comfortable, but it also makes the anticipation for all the good stuff so much more worth it!
However, it’s not always easy to take things slow, especially if there is a lot of chemistry and attraction. So, at the end of the day just see how you feel and enjoy the moment!
5. Have fun!
Most importantly — dating should be fun. Although it might be scary at first, getting to know somebody new should be an enjoyable experience, especially if you like the person! Feeling vulnerable or insecure at the beginning of a new relationship is normal. However, at the end of the day, if you’re with someone who truly cares about you, they will take the time to listen to your needs and comfort you in any way possible.
As I mentioned before, open communication is an essential factor in a healthy and happy relationship. Even if you’re not looking for a relationship, good communication is just as important while dating or sleeping with someone. Remember, we all went through and are still dealing with the aftermath of corona. Everyone’s dating life has been affected by it, and it might seem intimidating to get back into dating, but we’re all going through similar situations!
I hope these tips can help you in some way, or at least serve you as some motivation to shoot your shot!