Self-love is an important thing, especially on Valentine’s – whether you’re a single or not.
Valentine’s – one of the most frightening days of the year. It’s the day when singles feel even lonelier than they do otherwise. Women and men having a relationship are desperately searching for the perfect gift and obsessed with the idea of spending a fantastic day to celebrate the love of their partner. But what is it really? That thing called love?
Isn’t it true that many people have a relationship just because they’re afraid of being lonely? They cannot love themselves enough and therefore hold on to someone who isn’t right for them? The fear of being alone and unloved is a big deal.
Stop! Start With Yourself!
Of course, there’s no general answer to that question. But one thing is clear: our wellbeing should never depend on any other person. You live with yourself, for life, with the one and only you. If this person is not the one making you happy then maybe it’s the next one or the one after next? Stop. Start with yourself! Because self-love enables you to shape your relationships self-determined and to live it the way you want it rather than other people expect it. You can’t give, what you don’t have. If you don’t trust yourself, you can’t trust another person. That’s pretty simple. Therefore, self-love is not just important for yourself but for any other person who is close to you.
If partners are happy with themselves, they can be all the happier together. The blame games, for example – “you are the reason why I don’t feel loved and likeable” – end. But enough about relationships. It’s supposed to be all about YOU.
What’s the right way of taking good care of myself, where do I start, what is self-love? Can I learn it
Oscar Wilde got it straight to the point:
To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance
Yes! Yes, yes, yes! To love myself is a beautiful thing and I’m incredibly happy that I may experience it. I feel it growing more and more each day. Self-love is an ongoing process that never stops! As with everything, the beginning is hard but once you made it nothing and nobody can come between you and the love of your life.
Decide today, on Valentine’s Day, to love yourself, whether you’re in a relationship or not. For yourself, your partner and the ones who are close to you. Heed your favourite tips and be good to you. Spoil yourself! Do what you like! Allow yourself to be selfish! You deserve it, just learn to admit it <3
Happy Valentines,
Stella
Translation: Danielle De Bie
